What is a negative theme?
1.A little girl comes to counseling to say she feels badly because her whole life her mom told her she wished she had never been born. This little girl may grow up feeling worthless because the opinion of a mom or dad can seem like fact. When she is older she may continue to think others see her as worthless. This is called a worthless theme. Although she feels this way the good news is that she is not worthless.
2. A 15- year old boy comes in and sincerely believes he is unimportant. We discover that during his life both parents have been workaholics. They didn’t say, “you’re unimportant”; however, that is the message he received, as they never prioritized time with him into their busy schedules. He probably will incorrectly interpret himself as unimportant to friends and family as well and assume this to be reality. This is called an unimportant theme. Although he felt this way the good news is that he is not unimportant.
3.A 35- year old lady comes in and says she got a lot of criticism growing up. She never felt like she was approved of or accepted by her parents. She was constantly being critiqued as she attempted to do anything. She may grow up and feel that she is not good enough. This is called an inadequate theme. She may truly think that other people view her this way, as this was the message she received by her parents growing up. Although she may have felt this way, the good news is she is not inadequate.
Other possible themes could be unloved, unwanted, devalued, insignificant, etc.
7 Questions to help discover your Negative Theme
1.What was the primary negative feeling you experienced the most often as a child?
2.What is the primary negative feeling you experience the most often now as an adult?
3.What negative message did your dad write on your heart growing up?
Example: John’s parents may have never said, “John, you’re unimportant but they were workaholics and never arranged time for him in their lives. John may have felt the primary message he received was “you are unimportant.”
4.What negative message did your mom write on your heart growing up?
5.What was the negative belief you had of yourself growing up?
6.What is the negative belief you have of yourself now as an adult?
7.What did your childhood wound leave you feeling about yourself?
The answers to your questions will most likely be similar, as the answers will reveal your negative theme.
It is impossible to be worthless, unimportant or even inadequate. You are CHOSEN, a MASTERPIECE with a special identity, your DNA, eyes, teeth and fingerprint prove that you are one in 7 billion. You have indescribable worth! This is the truth about you.
When an inventor makes something he has a purpose in mind. For example, a chair was designed with 4 legs to have the function of giving us a comfortable place to sit. What purpose would it serve for us to turn the chair upside down and sit on the legs? The purpose of the chair would not be achieved, to have a comfortable place to sit. When a man makes anything he makes it for a reason to be used a certain way.
Mankind was also made for a specific reason and purpose. Each person proves to be a masterpiece made with a special identity shown by their unique specific fingerprint that they have indescribable worth. Understanding your worth is the necessary piece to give you the drive for your destiny. Not accepting your worth would be like sitting on the upside down chair, misusing the reason you are here.
When people don’t accept their value it often results in feelings of anxiety, anger and depression. This is why it is very important to accept the truth. Please understand and accept this exciting truth about you today, you have indescribable worth!
Let us reject the lies of worthlessness, inadequacy, feeling unimportant and dare to dream and believe in our worth. Understand this truth about you today and see how it begins to change your life! You will begin to heal and head to destiny.
A reduced rate is available for phone counseling sessions for people in MD and MI and in- person sessions are available for those who live in FL. Call 561-422-4226. If you are in another state look up a local counselor in your area.
The Tool- to change your negative theme
1. Dispute the lie i.e “ I am worthless”
2. Replace it with the truth i.e. “ I am not worthless. I have worth”
3. Repeat it a million times until you believe it.
Slowly but surely you will start to believe the truth.
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